Your partner is pregnant. Now what?
She may be confused and scared, but the truth is, you may too. And it is absolutely normal. An unexpected pregnancy affects both of you. This is why Lifeline is committed to supporting all men, whether you are a dad-to-be or a new dad. The truth is, men have options too, so you should learn about them. Lifeline gives you the opportunity to work through any questions you have about pregnancy and fatherhood with one of our experienced peer counselors.
Next Steps for Men:
Do you know that your reaction towards her pregnancy is determinant? In fact, women report that a lack of partner support is one of the main factors influencing them to have an abortion, even when they want to keep the baby. But men have the power to show love and support to your partner by doing these:
- Listen. Be present for her. This situation is difficult for both of you, and you both have big decisions and adjustments to make. Give her space to express how she is feeling and actively listen. Let her know that she can be honest with you. Keep the lines of communication open between the two of you. It may not be easy, but your goal should be to work together to come to the best decision for everyone.
- Stay calm. She may have had the time to process the news before disclosing it to you, but you haven’t. It’s okay to take a minute to yourself, but remember that she needs your support now more than ever. She may be the one who is pregnant but you have both brought a new life into existence. Regardless of where the future of your relationship lies, you are responsible for this pregnancy too.
- Talk about it. Dig deeper into your own feelings to understand where you are at exactly and what really scares you. Then share your thoughts and feelings with her. However, be clear in your intentions regarding the pregnancy and know the words and behaviors that may scare her. Talk to people you trust and who will support you. Seek good advice.
- Get all the facts. Gather all of the information you can. This will help you make the best choice. Be sure to be knowledgeable about every choice with its pros and cons. Make sure that she is making an informed decision that is safe for her.
- Support her. If you are able to, accompany her to her ultrasound appointment. Lifeline offers limited ultrasounds at no-cost. Additionally, help her relax while her hormones are changing and emotions fluctuating. Helping her around the house when she is feeling nauseated would also provide her with great relief.
Being A Father: Our Program For Men:
Do you wonder how other dads deal with the responsibilities and challenges of being a dad? You can meet one-on-one with a fatherhood mentor who will help you answer all your questions and provide support in a safe, “dads only” environment.
Our DadLINE program teaches new fathers the basics of fatherhood as well as addresses challenges or concerns that a new father may face.
If you would like to enroll in this no-cost program, please call Lifeline at (660)665-5688 or set up an appointment online.
What If The Pregnancy Test Is Actually Negative?
Was it a false scare and your partner is actually not pregnant? Although you may be fine this time, remember that you are never fully protected from an unexpected pregnancy. Always expect the unexpected. Our licensed counselor is available to discuss those subjects with you and your partner, so that both of you can navigate through your relationship confidently.
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